Friday, January 25, 2008
I,m Still Here!
I just wanted to let everyone know I’m not dead. Work has been super busy, the other paralegal I work with has been out all week so I have been even more busy. We are doing a dinner theatre at church this weekend so we have been practicing in the evenings. So needless to say I haven’t had a lot of time to myself to sit down and blog. I wish I could write more but I have a few more things to do before leaving work. I will update when I have more time.
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OMG! I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I'm just so so very sorry.
Hang in there. We have an alcoholic in our family and he is an adult (in his 60's). He has been a liar his whole life, I have only known him for about 8 years, he's on B's side. It's scary when you want so badly to trust them but they just continue to lie. I'm not saying your brother is a liar, I'm just saying in our experience the person with the problem is. Right now with your brother dealing with so much pain it might be almost impossible for him not to turn to drugs to numb his pain.
I hope I have not offended you in anyway, I'm just speaking from my experience and have no idea of all the details of your/ your brothers experience. He could be totally different, besides, I'm not a psychiatrist.
Hang in there girl, it sounds like a really tough time.
((HUGS))
WOW, I am so sorry for your family to have to go through this.
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. Don't have any advice, just hugs
Wow, she certainly got him where she wanted him, didn't she?
I wish I had some sort of advice for you, but to be honest, my gut says that no matter what you do, it's not going to help him. He needs professional counseling regardless of whether or not he wants professional counseling. I don't believe he should go back to your mother's house, that will just add to the load of stuff he has to deal with.
I grew up with an alcoholic (my mother's partner) and to be honest, my inclination is to tell you to stay away, because it doesn't matter what you do, or what hurts you, or how you feel, it's always going to be about them and their issues. So, professional counseling and if he needs a stint in a hospital, send him there.
I was sorry to hear about your brother. I'm sure this is a tough time for you and your entire family. I don't have advice. I just know it's hard to turn your back on family. Hang in there.
I agree with Debbie...the lies never end. I notice that you mentioned security clearance...would his workplace have a program that he could enter? I know that govt/armed services companies have a lot of perks, but I just wasn't sure if this was one. Be careful with your decisions at this time...you have to look out for you and your husband too. Good luck with everything.
Hi Morrisa, I am so sorry to hear about your family drama. I'm a NYC girl that has been around drugs, addicts and everything else a girl "from the hood" can see. I know he's your brother but taking him in won't do him any good if he's a user. The lies and stealing will destroy you and cause issues in your household. Try to get him some in house treatment. If he wants to heal he'll stay. If not, he should be on his own. My 2 cents.
I really hope that you get a break from the drama and it all works out for your family. HUGS
Hey Mo. I am so sorry you and your family are dealing with this on top of everything. You are in my prayers. Since you asked for advice, I'll chime in. My brother and his wife were separated for a little while, and he lived with us. It was honestly more than I could take and he didn't have an addiction problem. You and DH are going through your own things, and you need to focus on that. Your brother has an addiction and is upset over the tragic loss of his girlfriend. He needs the kind of help that you can't give him. I know it's hard and you feel like you're turning your back on family, but you're not.
I am very sorry for your brother, what an awful thing to happen, but as others have said, he needs professional help right now. Don't take him into your home if it will make you feel scared or uncomfortable. Is there another male relative he relates to?
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